It's a few weeks I simply can't find the time to participate in the weekly blogging meme #TMITuesday: today, I have the luxury of a day off from my bartending job, and what better way to spend it than to answer some sexy questions and to share some naughty secrets with my readers?
1. Write your 3 sexual commandments and share them here at TMI Tuesday.
A. No consent? No party.
Seriously. Our society is sadly founded on the (extremely chauvinistic) belief that women are sex objects whose only sexual function is to please men. Nothing is more wrong: women have their sexual likes/dislikes too, and after all they are living creatures, competent to stand trial: if they don't want to receive that dick pic or to be grasped on their butt, it's their full right to say 'no'. And, most importantly, you need to respect that 'no'.
B. Better be safe than sorry.
Condoms are not an option, especially when you have sex with casual partners: it's best not to mess up with STIs and unwanted pregnancy; then, if you're preparing for a sexy encounter with someone you don't know well, it's best to stock on dental dams and latex gloves too, to avoid the spread of potential diseases.
Also, ask your doctor to be regularly tested for STIs: your health and the one of your partner(s) is not to take lightheartedly!
C. Don't forget that all kinds of sexuality are equally right.
Never, ever shame someone for their sexual orientation, tastes or gender identity.
2. Tell us your 3 D’s of relationship destruction.
Distrust, disconnection from each other and detachment.
3. WikiHow lists several steps to seduce someone https://m.wikihow.com/Seduce-Someone-Using-Only-Your-Eyes. What are your top 3 moves of seduction?
The only move of seduction I have ever used has been to be myself: if you're gonna fake to be someone else to please the other person, the relationship is not going anywhere in my opinion. Nothing makes for a good relationship more than honesty, trust and feeling accepted for who you are, without needing to change yourself to impress him/her.
The guide in the link honestly made me laugh a lot: I think those kind of articles are written mostly for entertainment purpose and don't intend to be actual sex advice.
4. What is your sexual healing?
I didn't have a great childhood. My parents were too busy with their jobs and mostly with some family problems I could not understand at that time, but I spent all those years feeling neglected by those who were supposed to be there for me. Today, in my DD/lg dynamic sex is the expression of the caring attitude of someone else towards me: all they want is to give me the gift of pleasure, making me feel pampered and worthy.
I don't intend to say that all babygirls look for a Daddy Dom because of their childhood issues, far from it. What's sure is that my experience in the lifestyle has been vital to make me move over that feeling of being unbeloved and not worthy of protection and care from other people.
5. Would you attend a class that taught you how to have an orgasm?
I'm not sure you can really teach someone how to have an orgasm: it has mostly to do with the knowledge of your own body. As a sex blogger who has the mission to educate others about sexuality, I face this issue every day: you can approximately tell another person where is their G-spot, but every body is different and the technique that always gets off a woman may have zero effect on another. I always suggest to try different things to see what fits best with your anatomy
and sensitivity down there.