Arousal for me it's a thing that needs to be built up slowly, a small piece at a time.
I'm not saying I've never experienced that sudden 'I want you now' feeling, but this happens more or less 10% of the total times I end up having a steamy play session with my Daddy Dom.
Building it up, at least for me, starts from small simple things: wearing sexy lingerie under everyday clothes, relaxing with a nice brew and some erotica, carrying around my favourite sex toy in my purse.
That's why I'm a fan of portable, discreet sex accessories: vibrating love eggs, beautiful Kegel balls, and everything else that can be carried in my handbag without catching the attention of nosy coworkers, are a big turn on for me. They make me unable to stop thinking at the moment when, alone with Daddy, I'll get them out of my make up case!
It's really true that the brain is our biggest sex organ: without a little fantasy I don't know if I could be able to feel aroused in my life.
While erotica and ethical porn are some of our favourite entertainment sources as a couple, there are plenty of other ways we use fantasy in our love life: for example, a little roleplay with fancy costumes and accessories goes a long way. Or talking out loud about spicy fictional situations: we often play a 'dirty talk game' where one of us starts by saying 'what if we had sex in...(add a public place where the risk of getting caught is incredibly high)' or 'what would you do if I asked you to...(add unusual sex act)'. It's very fun, I guarantee!
But there are moments where fantasy and building up just aren't enough: sometimes stress from our everyday lives and responsabilities takes over and physical problems can occur such as performance letdowns for guys, and vaginal dryness for women.
These are delicate moments in our lives where hearing a doctor is strongly advisable, but when the causes are mostly related to stress and no illness is to blame, the adult industry today offers natural and reliable solutions to improve our love life.
For occasional erectile problems I would suggest trying a cockring. It's simply a stretchy piece of silicone or TPE that you wrap around your manhood to create a slight blood congestion where you need it the most. In our experience as a couple it works! There are plenty of models out there but I would advise the stretchy silicone ones for a starter: check out the CAZZOMEO range from MEO.de, it's one of our favourite high-end brands of sex toys for men!
For women who experience vaginal dryness, I can't help but suggest a good quality silicone lubricant: it lasts longer than the water based ones and it creates a sort of protective film on your mucosa that prevents pain and uncomfortable sensations. However be careful to only use water-based lube on silicone sex toys!
I've been advised by MEO.de to try their silicone-based FUCKSLUT lube when I'm feeling dry down there because of hormonal changes and my contraceptive pill. I'm gonna review it next week: I can't be a spoiler now!
And you? What do you do to feel aroused or to arouse your partner? Let me know in the comments!
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