#FoodForThoughtFriday's topic for this week is very dear to me as part of a long distance couple: without regular sessions of healthy, consensual sexting we wouldn't have survived years of living miles away from each other!
I fully agree with the prompt that states "Sexting [...] when done with a trusted partner, can be a lot of fun": like I always say in relation to every thing that has to do with sex, an open communication and respect of each other's boundaries are the real must-haves for a successful naughty chat online too.
What I simply can't stand instead, are the unsolicited dick pics I luckily have not yet started to get in my inbox during my sex blogging career: everyday I hear many girlfriends that feel seriously scared about having received one. I mean, behind the screen of a mobile phone or a laptop we all feel braver and more confident: but this doesn't authorize you to send a selfie of your boner to that cute woman you met yesterday at the pub. This is a serious break of consensuality in my opinion and I hope my words get someone thinking more before hitting "send".
That said, let's go straight to the questions!
Do you sext?
I wouldn't have survived many years of living far away from my Daddy Dom without putting at our advantage all the tools tech could provide us to keep our intimacy fresh, carefree and fun. I don't only do sexting: I've even tried writing private erotic fiction only for the two of us to read, and that was definitely a sexy, enjoyable experience. If you do, how do you do it? Tame? Flirty? Romantic? Explicit?
I like to do sort of an excalation from the most flirty, innocent teasing to more explicit words and private erotica. In my experience when you try to seduce someone from a distance and you can't see how the person is reacting from their body language, you should first "test the waters" to understand if they're ready and in the right mood: perhaps you can't see they're at work, super busy and stressed and they have everything on their mind but flirting with you!
Then, I think you should keep in mind that usually without physical contact it will take more time and build up before they become aroused: at least for me it's exactly like this. I need more flirting and sensual teasing when Daddy is not physically there and I will take my time before wanting to progress to more explicit words.
With this simple rules in mind I love the feeling of being intimate even while apart: it is simply a vital ingredient of my sex life.
What have been the most embarrassing/exciting outcomes of a sext exchange?
I don't know if what I'm gonna say is more embarrassing or wise, but when we started sexting or exchanging erotic writings, we immediately became both weirdly obsessed by internet security.
Accounts can be hacked, passwords can be stolen and if you don't protect yourself then your most intimate communications are at risk. Apart from the weird, geeky side of the thing, we absolutely recommend to every couple interested in sexting to take very seriously their privacy online and to take every step to ensure safety at all times: strong passwords, encrypted messaging systems and, if you're gonna exchange nudes, to seek information about DMCA requests and what you can do if your pic is stolen and shared online. It's better to stay safe than to be sorry!
About the exciting outcomes instead, I would say the most important to me has been to discover how months and months of building up the sexual tension with naughty texts leads to incredible sex when you finally can meet in person!
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